participation and emotions
By nigel mitchell
Watching this Carl Munck video, not sure why, maybe it will explain itself.
^ Nigel's contribution.
important note: Nigel did not actually finish his thought! Maybe the video blew his mind, maybe he got busy! Either way, he showed a powerful intention by creating his second post. As a human being this communicates a clear interest in whatever is going on.
Before you roll your eyes at me, please realize that I study people as a passion, because I have really really good parents, and I see a lot missing in the general fabric of the world with regard to how we treat each-other, that I was lucky enough to grow up with “under my belt,” as dad likes to say. I hope to give those gifts to other adults, slowly through modeling the healthy behavior, slowly fixing problems without trying, by getting people to play along in the little worlds that I create.
That's why I do all of these things. I want to give everyone the same opportunity of perspective I have, because that is powerful, and it is a basis that guides everything I do.
To be very clear, I'm not trying to turn you into me, I just see a lot of bad things in this world, that I grew up with the right instructions from my parents to avoid, but I see people making these mistakes constantly, everywhere- as adults, and their lives would be SO much better if they just learned not to do a few simple things..
and enjoy themselves that much more!
There is no right or wrong way to live life, and that's an uncomfortable truth about the uncertainty of possibility, that is simply so large to attempt to comprehend, it cannot be comprehended by most people with how they currently understand themselves and how they relate and position themselves in the world based on their actions and that understanding as a base line- that guides and becomes a part of their “character and later personality.” It becomes personality in an aspect or quality when it later combines with their unique inborn traits and preferences as a being.
This is a natural combination but given modern variables it is not a useful human instinct, but instead of updating it, or suffering- lets just try to understand the element of our nature and try to work with it, instead of being taken for a ride we do not want to be on.
Since this article is not trying to go super deep into psychology and behavior so I will respect myself and your attention span, and speak no more there for today.
the rest of this is not ordered correctly but is mostly important with some supporting contextual embellishment, but not intentionally grandiose.
this blog is a mini project to get people feeling safer to be open emotionally and share again. that is why this is important.
Also, if you don't know my character well, you may think of me as a good-natured teacher, or old zen master who really isn't – but just is a guy in the village, who likes to see people having a good time.
also it is early and i have a lot to do that wasn't this today, but here are my best efforts at collecting every relevant thought and summarizing it: I may edit this down for clarity later, it is pretty damn long , but it is not terribly rambling in tone, use that to decide if you continue reading, or just leave now knowing that I don't want people posting “i watched the video but i dont know what to make of it”.
All I am asking is you answer the question, or do nothing at all. Don't submit something that isn't an actual answer to the prompt. I will automatically delete these from now on, regardless of how well I know you. If you need to save a draft, I believe the easiest way for you to do that is to create a write.as account first, then I think it will save your text automatically as long as you keep the window open, and dont visit another website on that page and click back, expecting to see your text waiting.
That's it, lol – the rest is “why” and examples, considerations and things maybe you didn't or did consider but I feel would be great to understand so i wrote them out for you-
but the most important thing to convey here is don't post until you're ready, there is no rush- just wait till you're ready to share :)
Nigel is not being singled out , BUT I am using what he did in his good nature, by leaving a sentence in my submission que- to dangle and dance and tell me he wants to play this game! :–) Imagine how excited I was and am.
So this post talks about what i hope you can get out of joining in and contributing to this project and why I think it may surprise you in a fantastic way, for that just finish this short (post) versus how much I usually babble and give supporting context , I try to draw circles and fill the inside parts, with you in the middle- but not always appropriate,
okay the long winded well meaning story-teller-cave-floor-social-scientist-engineer-friend-of-yours who is writing this wants to lay out the following procedural concepts: about this place-
please ignore the lack of organization and just read, or dont.
So here i took the points that i needed to make, and just dropped them into a much shorter contextual vehicle (Nigel's incomplete but well meaning post.)
I then took his post and talked around it, holding it up like a cute teddy bear at a conference as a supporting visual aid but to illustrate as an example without any negativity.. ** what ** that kind of thing does, and how its exactly the thing we are trying to fix! behaviorally emotionally~
Please pause read the last paragraph again from “so here i took..” and then try to feel your heart smile, realize nobody is being poked fun at, and read the rest of this article without further anything else needing be said for understanding :)
Also because of the good groovy opportunities that come when people generally all trust each-other mean well- then you would see a new town soon where you live, in some way or other! But this problem of trust, like Depeche Mode so famously sang about is a big deal, because its eroded largely in our modern “contemporary” world.
and instead replaced by a faster and faster stream of information- which I honestly think is a consequence of this psychic imbalance in most people. because it is a logical extensibility of “lets just add more stuff until we ignore and forget the thing we didnt do”
it echos a busy person avoiding a deadline, but the larger meta pattern of “how people generally interface with information and themselves” without additional thought or suggestion, goal or instruction – the default setting seems to be slowly getting stuck in the “full throttle” mode.
Guess what happens next? problems, and then large scale burn out. ;)
So this is an important lesson because right now we are in “problems” mode but I hope we can globally perhaps avoid a full scale melt down again,
I'd like to be here a while and see little kids be happy and run up to me and show me rocks and shit, for at least a decade before i kick this planet and end up coming back as a little baby again. LOL
So hey, Nigel- ;–) all good, here i hope you are okay being mentioned here? ::offers a hug or a cup of uncle johns coffee::
Yes Nigel, Watch the video, I have a feeling you will be surprised by this one. :)
Since we are new and setting up how this works and getting who will play with us in this fun experiment about learning and growing, I have went ahead and published your post ahead of “it having your opinion inside of it.”
:) But normally, I will not plan on publishing a post like this, which is one thing I hope to avoid in this mini project (that could become popular?) if people enjoy it and benefit somehow, or just keep playing along learning and sharing about the others playing along with you/us :)
So next time just form an opinion even if its fast, or wait to post until you know how to tell us your feeling on the subject asked for our prompt :D Because I am a bit too oriented to process, I see your draft here and assume its one of two things:
- you got excited and something came up and you did not finish writing :)
- you were worried you would forget, so wrote something- as a coping skill for a fast paced world, hoping that your effort would be percieved by others playing this game with us, that you had tried to make a second effort in good faith, and “left a mark- nigel will return to finish his second post” (that is something i hope to heal) in those who play
(this is a slow paced game, so I approved this one, but go ahead and make another submission,,,, at your leisure) – still same length and everything! 4-5 sentences or ideas you took away from what you did glom onto in the video
- why was this video interesting to you * ? is the question prompt ! hehehehe
okay bye :) When you re-submit a whole answer instead of calling role (God I am so glad you are here to play. Nigel- you have a fascinating brain. we will delete this entry and replace it with your entry, or perhaps we will leave it in the stream for others to learn that this is a safe place and there is no hurry, judgement, or conclusion drawn if you play sporadically. This isn't about allegiance, or consistent participation – its just about trying something new-
that isn't new- but its getting that way in society. this whole thing is about sharing an opinion, in a world where you dont feel that may necessarily be welcome, or safe – but you realize it's still ** important ** but the fabric of the world appears to be somewhat changing a lot, so this is a tool here this shared journal, to feel a little bit more normal, and practice remaining open and emotionally connected, with your other humans.
so i'm leaving this post in our stream, and Nigel don't worry about submission # 2- just play along and drop in when you see it fitting, I will post #3 sometime today (9-14-2020) so if that one sounds fun just play with that prompt and we will continue on enriched by our mutually enhanced perspective (you knowing more what i am trying to create for people) (and if it changes that's fine but the general thrust is to be * helpful * to the end of keeping people communicating,
somewhat- – that layer right under the operant “action” of “Hey there I am Bob and came to this place to buy a hamburger,” and that is transaction-ally why I am here.” vs Bob goes to the restaurant and looks for someone to greet- to ensure they are open first, before going inside, and checks for signs of other eaters.
That part gets skipped in modern life and we check “online” on a website to ask a computer if the restaurant is open instead of going outside to the restaurant and starting with that way. This is crazy and backwards and cannot be a good evolution in most cases- (and maybe i dont understand what good can come from this yet) but the quantum shift in PROCEDURE...
- from being able to know if a place or thing exists in a servicable fashion to you (ie bobs restaurant of choice is open and cooking that day)– to being able to know the information before even leaving the house-
well – this advancement that I am trying to isolate and explain here, that “process” or “logical way of doing it better because now we have yelp and google” – is such a quantum shift in PROCESS FLOW,
that it actually is a core active aspect functionally in the complexity introduced with respect to the erosion of the go look and see and bang on it with the rock human model we have evolved with since the presumed beginnings of our more protean sounding origin stories we have all read growing up and pondered later as adults at least once.
this blog article now serves several functions, and wasn't even supposed to be an article ! But now, it holds more meaning- because I put more effort into it- and saw a few things that were really important to me, about how you would hopefully see this blog project and be enticed to understand the goal, and therefore see the value in it, and at least try to play along- or tell someone who would get more benefit than you,
(and that is you acting in service to others, if you've never thought about it that way,) service to others isn't always a painful thing that involves planning and deadlines and a concrete expectation,
it can be as simple as smiling at the person you have no fucking idea who they are when they look at you as you cross by in the street intersection, or at the corner. That is another thing entirely , but thats the base level we must start at to repair some semblance of cohesive unity across humanity~
between us as we move around and try to enjoy and repair our home best we understand how to. Because -that- is an instinctual process, and it is primal level stuff,
and don't think for an iota that you are immune to the stress caused by seeing or hearing about destruction to your home planet.
If you butt heads here with me you are in denial and i don't want to hear from you about it- with all respect meant, your energy would detract like kryptonite- from this- just join us instead and open yourself up to the last time you felt safe sharing something vulnerable and contribute your first answer here. :)
I'm trying to make sure that in this crazy world, bob does not turn into a weird fucking hermit who does not trust it is safe any longer to go outside, I'm doing this for the bobs. Because to be totally forth-right, I think right now most of us feel a lot like Bob, in one way or another.
More later, but this all needed to be said and some of it, has been un-said swimming a few days in my brain and blood- and waiting for the right catalyst to increase the visibility of the fire we are building – a trans-formative one, see most people only think of fire as destruction. challenge your perceptions.
thanks for showing up. thats why you're here. come back soon. I love all of you, because you are all worth while, and you are all really unique.
-Omar (doctorbeans) (or ramo or ramon borema – which is a joke about aura borealis and likely the only kind of permutation i can change my facebook name to without the thing noticing i am not actually ramo, LOL,
there are sections of my facebook profile I have intentionally not updated since 2007- when I populated it with things like movies Id watched recently around the time when I joined), so it probably will continue to assume I'm Ramo- since that is easiest for it, to not generate more data trying to verify my identity.
Either way I never hold back so regardless what the site thinks im called my actions speak for my characterization well enough.
Bottom line though is everything I do is borne out of an effort to help someone, that I don't immediately do to entertain myself somehow, out of good nature.
I never try to harm someones sense of self for my entertainment. Those people are consumed by a wicked psychic disease,
which is very fixable.
MAKE a great morning !
i have some coffee left over and i am very grateful for this. I will release prompt # 3 within the next 2 hours. come back soon and check!
(and if the visual is fun) you can imagine right now I am sitting behind the cave chiseling the prompt into a tablet, with roman numerals III atop, but our cave allegory I continue to relate back to, and will for some time until we more-so globally live that way, so get used to it-
and I am taking the care to congeal the idea for #3, without rushing it, and now I am off.. ;–)